Breaking Up Without Breaking Down
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There are many ways couples can end up in court or in adversarial negotiations, but there are just as many ways to avoid ending up that way. Sometimes the issues that cause people to go to court look large, like where the children will live or who will get the house, and sometimes they can look small but feel huge. What all family court cases have in common is intense emotion; emotion that is disguised as an argument about ‘facts’, because you can’t really have an argument about emotion in a court, can you?Where couples are embroiled in the court system for years, where disputes grow so bitter that former spouses cannot even be in the same room, where the legal battle costs hundreds of thousands of dollars, and where both adult children and younger children are hurt by what’s gone on between their parents.Ultimately, a bad divorce hurts everyone in the family, the extended family and the friendship circle.Your children could get caught in the middle of arguments, and find themselves in the role of messenger or peacekeeper. They may withdraw from the pain of family life by whatever means they have, through silence, spending a lot of time elsewhere, travel or moving out. They may decide to assert themselves as much as possible, and sometimes retreat into substance abuse or a strong flirtation with ‘the wrong crowd’.You and your spouse could get so caught up in the conflict and in claiming what you feel is rightfully yours that you lose sight of everything you used to love and respect about this person you had planned to spend your life with, until nothing but bitterness remains.And eventually, when the dust settles, once you realise that the fight wasn’t worth it and you should have done it differently, all you have created is a lifetime of conflict. The good thing is that it doesn’t have to be this way.You and your spouse don’t need to fight tooth and nail for every last cent until you can
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